Do you really want to get back together with your ex? Be true to yourself and do some soul searching. If you and your ex get back together, will it really make you happy or will you end up on the same road that led to the breakup earlier.
The painful reality is that are a few relationships are not worthy of saving. If you and your ex spent more time fighting than you enjoying each other’s company, then it is better that you accept the break up as good and move on. If your ex was rude and unkind in his words or deeds, then, the relationship was not healthy at all. If the behavior pointed to mental instability, then you will be better off without your ex. Only if the relationship was healthy in general and the fighting was on petty issues, the relationship is worth saving.
Never attempt to pester and push your ex. Frenzied attempts at constantly getting in touch with your ex (whether by phone, email, text message) stalking him/her etc. can only do more harm than good. These will be perceived as signs of desperation, alienating your ex more and more rather than bringing him/her closer to you.
Avoid arguing with, begging, or pleading with your ex about your past relationship. When you are alone after a breakup, your mind may exaggerate or even conjure up all sorts of “wrongs” that you may have done. Your may begin too see merit in the excuses your ex would have given you at the time of breaking up. You may start feeling guilty and may feel a desperate need to make up by owning up your “mistakes.” But this attitude may not help you.
Learn to focus on the present. If you fell like making up by admitting that you were wrong, give yourself and your ex some time to ponder over the past. Live your life, in the meanwhile. You'll probably become more valuable to your ex by letting him/her to think about you and miss you. You'll also be helping yourself to live a happier, more fulfilling life too.
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